While on the way out the door for my run, my husband told me he had checked my blog three times yesterday. “What’s up with Lynn?” he asked, in reference to the absence of new posts. I found this funny and flattering, in that being a think-out-loud kind of person he definitely knows what is on my mind. But, the written word does offer another perspective and as we continue our journey of couplehood we’ve discovered that writing is a preferred communication medium for my husband.
We are part of a unique sharing group. It is a couples/marriage sharing group and it has a distinct format. One couple does a presentation on whatever relationship topic they they like and then they pose a question related to that topic. The couples disperse to separate rooms or areas and then each person writes a letter to their spouse for 10 minutes. Then spouses read each others letter twice and then discuss the letters, starting with the letter which contains the strongest emotions. The discussion is 10 minutes long.
Each letter has to begin with telling your spouse what their most endearing quality was for the day, week, month and so on. There are also guidelines as to how to express your feelings, as just that, rather than as blame.
Then everyone regroups and we “share” our thoughts and if desired, the contents of our letter. It is a totally enriching experience to learn from each other and to spend time this way with couples who are highly motivated to “dwell deep”. The ranges of ages for the nine couples in our group is mid-thirties to early-seventies.
To partially answer the question of what’s up, I ran about 14 miles on this absolutely gorgeous day but is was a struggle. I’ve never felt quite so dead legged as I did today, parting company with my friends to walk and run the final four miles home. About 400 meters from home I realized why the fatigue. Blame it on the garden. Thursday was a GARDEN-RUN-GARDEN duathlon and I am feeling the after-effects now. The garden is also the reason why I am getting so irregular with the blog. Although, our gardens, front and back are very modest in size. A number of our neighbours have incredible gardens they have been tending for decades which overflow with plant material, from which I have inherited a few specimens.
Better go plant those dahlia bulbs . . . ciao!